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Whinging…Is it OK?

Well naturally it’s ok to have a whinge...but pick your topic and your target!

Having a whinge can let off steam. It can validate your feelings and share and/or spread information. It can make you feel supported. It can form an alliance… a sense of bonding when it’s further evidence for some issue you have in common, with the person you are having a whinge to.

All this…IF the person you whinge to shares your views…cares about the topic…or really cares for you...otherwise DON”T!!!

Whinging in the wrong conditions makes you and the world seem negative. It puts a damper on the feel of the moment. It makes you boring and a person to…possibly avoid (especially if that’s your primary mode of communication).

So think before you whinge!

Have a great week.

LIDIA

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