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AND not BUT

“BUT“…such a stop word. When someone tells us something, whatever it is and then precedes to…”But…”, the but seems to undo all that preceded it.

We do it to ourselves. “I would like to …But…” Topic closed.

In her great book “Living in Process” Anne Wilson Schaef, talks about using and instead of “but”. Her and is always and, an underscored and, to differentiate it from the normal and. It recognises that the concepts may normally be seen as not compatible or that the two thing put together may not be easy…and...you intend to do both…or at least have a shot.

Try putting more and in your life. Just using a different word can make an incredible difference to the feel of the concept.

Warm wishes

LIDIA

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