One of my clients told me her decision. “I will not be self-conscious anymore…I will be conscious of self”…so WISE. Being self-conscious we worry about what people think of what we do, how we do it, and of who we are.When we are self-conscious we aee ourseves through the eyes of others…or at least how …
Life can sometimes get very difficult. Wet think, ” What’s the point”. We can’t be bothered doing or trying anything. ALL TOO HARD. BUT…There is a point. You HAVE TO GO ON… AND things WILL CHANGE…even though it feels like this state is forever. Things will change no matter…definitely if you do absolutely nothing…You’ll get …
Hopeless…can’t do anything! Give up…no way…look after yourself! Read More »
We often link the two…“forgive and forget”. But to do that is almost impossible especially if something has been particularly painful. It is also not very wise as it means you go on as if the hurt hadn’t happened. Part of life’s learning is to learn to self protect.This is done based on changing behaviour …
“BUT“…such a stop word. When someone tells us something, whatever it is and then precedes to…”But…”, the but seems to undo all that preceded it. We do it to ourselves. “I would like to …But…” Topic closed. In her great book “Living in Process” Anne Wilson Schaef, talks about using and instead of “but”. Her and is …
We are often told that to understand someone we need to Step…or walk…a thousand steps…in their shoes. So,lets explore this notion of stepping into someone’s shoes.Yes, this is usually how we can come closer to understanding how someone else may feel. It is one of the key ingredients of empathy. But…beware of thinking you know …
I recently went to a seminar conducted by Dr. Daniel J.Siegel a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine.One of the main areas of his work is the study of brain development and brain function. Dr Siegal presented an interesting acronym to remember how a healthy brain/mind functions…FACES A healthy mind is… …
The image is often used of our life being a journey on the sea of life, and the vessel that represents us being a boat…usually a sail boat at the mercy of the winds and tides. The question is do we just let go and let the tides and winds direct our direction? This is …
Much is made of not letting go…of having the strength to hang in there. I do think it’s a great strength IF it is still appropriate to your life…IF the reason for holding on has some reality and not just hope or is just based on an illusion. To hang in there, you …
Do you prioritise what is on your schedule? Or…do you schedule your priorities? The former is fine IF you have decided what is on your schedule. But…if it’s mainly what has been decided for you, mainly just doing what needs to be done…perhaps it is time to consider your options. With the New Year coming …
I came across a great concept in a “The Chemistry of Joy” written by Henry Emmons, MD.,…The 51% Solution. Here it is…we find change difficult. Habits are extremely hard to break. We resist doing things the new way even if we think it would be better, something inside says,”but…that’s the way I do it”. When …