Therapy Thoughts

Self-conscious or Conscious of Self?

One of my clients told me her decision.

“I will not be self-conscious anymore…I will be conscious of self”…so WISE.

Being self-conscious we worry about what people think of what we do, how we do it, and of who we are.When we are self-conscious we aee ourseves through the eyes of others…or at least how we think they see us (often very wrong).

Being conscious of self, we consider whether we are doing what we consider right. Are we living to our own rules? Are we congruent with what we want to stand for?We do what we need to do and how we need to do it.

What a great distinction!!!

Which do you do?

All my best wishes,
LIDIA

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